It’s not easy being a nerd. When people consider you one, they often exclude you from events, or just won’t talk or socialize with you. People can be very cruel, unfortunately, and any nerd will likely already know this all too well.
One of the most challenging aspects of being a nerd is exploring one’s sexuality. Most just resign themselves to pornography. However, nerds can still have fulfilling, enjoyable, and exciting sex lives too.
If your status as a nerd is getting in the way of your sexual exploration, then this post will tell you how you can find people to have sex with.
Phone Sex
Before you go out looking for somebody to have sex with, you should consider using a phone sex service. More often than not, dirty talk precedes sex. You can brush up on your dirty talk using live phone sex lines, which can also be a lot of fun. There are lots of different types of phone sex lines. They can be expensive, though. However, you can find 36p per minute phone sex lines, which are worth looking for, since these are the cheapest lines available in the industry. Be sure to explore them and find the one that’s right for you.
Social Media
Social media can be a good place to meet people with similar interests to your own. You can follow specific hashtags, location tags, or keywords relevant to your hobbies. Then, you can follow the people who post using these. It is even possible for you to follow hashtags and keywords that are related to sex. Following sex-related posts can be a great way of meeting people who are expressive of their sexual identities online. You can then get to know these people, talk about your own sexuality, and learn things about theirs.
Nightclubs and Bars
For most nerds, nightclubs and bars are daunting places. However, they don’t need to be. Picking people up in bars and nightclubs is actually really easy. You just need confidence, which is something that will be explored in more detail at the end of this post. In addition to confidence, you need to look your best. Try making an effort before you go out to pick people up. Get a haircut, buy some new clothes, and shave. You also need to make sure that you don’t get too drunk when you are hanging out in nightclubs and bars. A lot of people make the mistake of drinking too much. When you’re too drunk you could make bad decisions or even get taken advantage of.
Video Gaming
Video gaming isn’t the first place people go when they want to discuss sex or explore their sexualities. However, many online video game forums and communities are filled with nerds interested in expressing themselves. You might not find a boyfriend or girlfriend video gaming, but you might find like-minded individuals that you can talk to. In terms of actually playing video games, if you are playing online with an open mic and you come across anybody that interests you, then send them a friend request. Get to know anybody that you talk to online first before discussing sex.
Video Chat
Video chat can be just as fun as phone sex, although it can be more awkward. The primary reason that video chatting is so awkward is that you are looking at another person, face-to-face. If you lack confidence, then this probably won’t appeal to you very much. You can use an international video chatting service designed for casual conversation to find somebody interested in sex chat. A good thing about these services is that you can be anybody that you want to be. You don’t have to be a nerd. Nobody will know what your social status is unless you tell them.
Speed Dating
Speed dating can be very fun, but it’s definitely not this list’s most effective way of exploring one’s sexuality. The reason for this is that when you go speed dating, the people that you meet are more interested in long-term relationships than they are in one-night stands. With that said, you can still bed the people you meet on the first night if you’re confident and charming. Then, if you decide to follow up and have a relationship with them, that’s entirely up to you. Like video chatting, speed dating allows you to meet strangers and therefore be anyone that you want.
Hook-up Apps
Hook-ups can be a good way of having one-off nights of passion. As with everything else listed here, you can be anyone that you want to be on these apps. You don’t have to be a nerd. People will only know you are if you tell them. Otherwise, you’ll just be a normal person. When you are using hook-up apps, it’s important not to include too much information about yourself in your bio. A lot of people use fake names on these apps. You should take some time to get to know the people you are planning on meeting, so you can be sure they are who they say they are. Meet them in public first, too.
Dating Sites
Dating sites are like hook-up apps, except people use these to find long-term relationships. If you’re looking for something more serious, then dating sites are worth considering. It is worth noting though when you use these apps people aren’t going to have sex with you immediately or going to want to discuss sex for that matter. The people that use these sites aren’t like the ones you find on hook-up apps. Bear this in mind if you are considering using one.
Having Confidence
Whatever you choose to do, be confident. Just because you are a ‘nerd’ does not for a second mean that you can’t find people to have sex with. As the saying goes, there’s somebody for everybody. It might take a little more time for you to find somebody if you are looking in your local area, but if you look a little further afield, or if you use the internet, then you should be able to find somebody in no time at all. Just make sure that you are confident, polite, and respectful.
If you don’t understand yourself sexually, then you will never understand who you truly are. Our sexualities are inextricably connected with our inner selves. Exploring your sexuality is essential. Thanks to the internet and everything else mentioned here, it’s never been easier to learn about oneself sexually.
